As we find ourselves at the end of yet another year, we look back to reflect on the good, the bad and everything in between. It seems like we were celebrating the New Year just five minutes ago and we begin to ask ourselves how? Did we notice time just ticking by? What were we doing that whole time? Did we grow? What did we do? Did we remember to pick our heads up from our cubicles and actually see the world changing around us? Did we notice?
I have been asking myself these questions for the last few months as the year was coming to an end. The older I get the faster time seems to go. This year I turned 26- the ripe age of another reality of adulthood coming to fruition; getting booted off my parent’s health and dental insurance. It wasn’t pretty at first, but I did survive.
This year I made the choice to stop depending on anyone or anything financially. Part of being an adult is learning to handle things ourselves, including our money. I reject the idea of being a princess waiting to be saved. No one will save you, you have to save yourself and be your own prince charming. I decided this year to take my finances by the balls and make them my bitch; taking control of my financial life and my future with a clear budget and a plan. The only person I need to depend on is me. I find myself a year later- further down the road of independent financial adulthood. And I must say it feels just fine!
I have realized over this past year that this life is entirely my own journey and no one else’s. There is no set course and no set time table. What I choose to do with it, how I spend my time and money, and with who, is up to me. Not everyone is going to understand my journey (and yours), and that is totally OK- they don’t have to. I reject the idea of a predetermined time frame of which I have to obtain certain mile stones in my life. I will decide if and when the time is right for me and if I want those things at all. Marriage? Probably. Kids? Maybe. When? IF and When I decide. This was a year of choosing for me and I chose to continue to pursue my fashion career and build my plus size fashion business and I couldn’t be happier. I did also get engaged this year! (Read all about it here)- But when we decide to walk down the aisle is up to us.
Looking back, one of my proudest moments this year was being a part of a special collaboration of plus size bloggers who represent style above a size 22. Check it out here! This is a huge deal because women who are a size 22+ are often left out of AD campaigns and online shopping options. I am honored to be chosen to represent an underserved segment of plus size women. I put my big girl pants on and faced my fears of being in front of the camera. I put on one of my very own hand made plus size dresses and rocked it!
I also got to catch up with some of these amazing women in NYC during one of the biggest plus size fashion weeks around! Looking back this year was full of excitement and adventure! NYC is like no where else in the world. You get the chance to create who you are and be who you want to be. This summer while in NYC I had the best selling season of my hand made plus size dresses ever! I got there and did my very best- and this time, it worked! And the best part was, it made me happy, because I was doing what I loved (and I was making other people happy too!)
You should do what makes you happy and define your own version of success. I have decided that the plus size fashion entrepreneur life is for me. Level: Difficult- Challenge Accepted. One of the most valuable lessons I have learned is to not let anyone tell you, you can’t. I was brought up with the notion that “if you tell me I can’t, I will show you I CAN.” And I try to live that every day; remind myself that it is OK to fail, as long as I get back up and try again, for as long as it takes.
I don’t always know the destination of my future because it continues to evolve. You do not have to have it all figured out. Trust me, no one does, and if they tell you they do- they’re lying to you. Don’t lose sight of your dreams, but accept that your dreams can change. Like most young adults I am continuing to try to figure it out, the best I can. Trying to build the life I want and choosing to believe and invest in myself. And you should too!
Appreciate all those small steps, no matter how tiny and allow yourself the feeling of joy and pride as you reflect on your year. You did this! Look at how far you have come! Savor in the moment! Get off your damn iphones and let it all in. Take a minute to stop and look around every once in a while, if you don’t, you just might miss it! Reflect and appreciate yourself and what you have achieved. Make a plan, and keep kicking ass in 2017!
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